Mother’s Day-the Vortex

Mother’s Day – the Vortex

“When a daughter loses a mother, the intervals between grief responses lengthen over time, but her longing never disappears. It always hovers at the edge of her awareness, prepared to surface at any time, in any place, in the least expected ways.” ― Hope EdelmanMotherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss

Mother’s Day is a day to honor and be honored.  It is also a day which I have struggled with my whole life; having lost my mother when I was 13 months of age.  Some holidays, which are celebrated by most with joy and happiness, are triggers of sadness for others.  Perhaps this piece will touch someone else’s heart who struggles with the day as I do.

“a mother’s death also means the loss of the consistent, supportive family system that once supplied her with a secure home base, she then has to develop her self-confidence and self-esteem through alternate means. Without a mother or mother-figure to guide her, a daughter also has to piece together a female self-image of her own.” ― Hope EdelmanMotherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss

The vortex of feelings which swirl around me on Mother’s Day are painful, and yet I am grateful.  I take comfort that I am a mother who has loved her sons and they are forever woven into my heart.  I also remind myself that I am a child of God, which takes the sting out of the day and makes me feel less separate and alone.

The piece below is made up of images taken throughout the years which swirl within my heart.   I remember that today is a new day!   I am present and emerge as who I was meant to be – a spiritual being who has embraced life.

an article written about how a woman feels on Mother's Day because of the loss of her mother as an infant.

When a mother dies, a daughter’s mourning never completely ends.” ― Hope EdelmanMotherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss, 20th Anniversary Edition


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